Inactivist

"About a year after I last saw her, I just felt terribly depressed. I expected somehow that seeing the surrogate would change my life. I’d started wearing cologne and I thought everyone would be able to tell I was sexy and handsome. But nothing happened. They tell us to think of ourselves as sexual and beautiful, but it doesn’t do any good unless someone else sees us as sexual and beautiful. You just can’t demand love. You have to be lovable. I’m still trying to figure out how to do that."

Mark O’Brien, This American Life - Episode 13: Love